A nice article, if a bit ranty…
I often feel sad and frustrated with play partners who are stuck in narrow ideas and can’t relate without some categorical reference. I don’t mind fucking, but the focus so many men place on it completely distracts from what’s going to be our best possible sex, which may well be any of the infinite alternatives to a dick in an ass.
If you and I ever find ourselves naked and embarking on a session of sexual pleasure, please notice whether you have an agenda or not and be ready to let it go. I promise you that I am far more likely to cum for you if I don’t suspect there’s some test I must pass.