Is there a JO club in Palm Springs?

By far, the one question I get more than any other is some variation of, “Is there a JO club in ____?” Clearly, there are a hell of a lot of guys who just want what JO clubs have to offer and when they find out about us their one response is, “Hell yes! Where do I sign up?”

There is no current list of all active JO clubs being maintained. The one listing I go to when asked that question is the NY Jacks web site, specifically their page of Links. I just checked it and sure enough, there is a listing for “PS Jacks.” Unfortunately, as of this writing, that link goes to an “account suspended.” page, so it looks like the PS Jacks have faded. If anyone reading this has information about JO clubs in Palm Springs, please post that here in the comments section.

What I do know is that Billy Jack, the man behind the classic porn persona of Chad James, has been presenting Healthy Friction, a series of serious JO-centric weekend retreats since 1989 and many of them take place in Palm Springs. The events are intense, deep-bate experiences with men who are very, very into “the bate” as a personal, social and even spiritual practice. This is, in some ways, a step beyond JO clubs.

I see that they are currently planning Wank Fest 2013 at the Triangle Inn for the weekend of April 25 through 28, 2013. I suggest you contact them by visiting and joining their Yahoo group. Tell them JackDaddy Paul from Rain City Jacks sent you. Billy Jack is a luminary of bater culture.

Again, please add your comments to this question if you have any info about and buddy JO and/or group JO being organized in Palm Springs.

So you went to college in Central IL?

Yep! Class of 1979, U of I in Champaign-Urbana. I guess that makes me an “Illini” or Illinus or Illinum… My degree was pretty much worthless, so I don’t bestow much credence on that fact, but yes. I’m from there. I have an applied fine arts degree in music (vocal performance).

I also attended two years at NIU in DeKalb.

I got my most relevant experience those years (at least, as far as this blog is concerned) as bartender at “The Bar” on Chester Street.


I feel as if I’ve just woken up from a long hibernation. I’m not sure what sparked it, but I’m hornier now than I’ve felt in a very long time. I’ve been healthy, I’ve been masturbating regularly, I’ve been playing with others as much as ever, I’ve been sleeping well… so maybe it’s just the slightly longer days starting to roll in with winter rolling on, but I welcome it, whatever the reason. It feels great to not only have sex, but to feel driven by it and toward it.

I’m 54 now. I know I don’t have the chemistry I had in my twenties and thirties. I also know that I’ve got a hell of a lot of sex going on for the “average” man my age, and I have no intention of slowing down, but sometimes, we don’t get a choice, whatever our intentions. Life isn’t forever.

But… I came three times yesterday. Very unusual for me these days. The first orgasm came while cruising a phone line and looking at amateur porn. During that session I found a guy who I would meet later in the day and spent my second load with him, just after he spent his on my chest. The third erupted around midnight, when I decided to try on a new silicone “nuttsling” I’d just bought which very much worked some hard-cumming magic on my cock and balls.

And today, I’m horny all over again. I was seasoning a warm cast iron skillet with some bacon grease this morning and almost without thinking, found my hand rubbing the warm grease into my cock, thinking about how I would personally love to suck a dick slick with bacon grease (I am no vegetarian, folks). After a few minutes and full erection, I wiped down and decided to spend my energy on this note.

I have no shame about sex. I absolutely love it and can see clearly that it belongs in our lives in all kinds of ways. I have my opinions about some kinds of sex, but I mainly just love it and feel gratitude for it’s active presence in my life in myriad ways. Often, I want to think about it, look at it, write about it, talk about it… but mostly, I want to be in it. I look forward to sharing my experience with you more as the days grow longer. I hope you will share yours with me along the way.