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  • tylerthebadwolf:

    THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN “JERKING OFF” AND “MASTURBATING”

    The subject of this post gave me permission to restore it, after asking for it to be removed last year. it’s worth your read and might help you to understand what guys are talking about on all these bate-focused tumblrs, and how it’s not quite the same thing as when you watch porn stars squeeze their dicks till cum shoots out. 

    Masturbation is serious business, if you want it to be:

    http://badwolfblog.com/blog/2016/11/07/difference-jerking-off-masturbating/

    Another masterful entry from Tyler. He and I align on masturbation so well. His blog is required reading for every bator.

  • Porn is not real

    edgeucation:

    pt-kid:

    sgprotein:

    Remember, guys – porn is not real.

    I know, this seems hypocritical, especially coming from me. But we all need to be realistic, so there’s less disappointment.

    To start with, porn stars are chosen for their physical attributes – not everyone is an Adonis under their clothes, and all of us are equipped with different sets of tools. I have a slightly larger than average set, but I’m nothing compared to some of the guys here.

    Porn is also all planned out. It helps to be upfront so you don’t get stuck in a two-bottom or two-top situation, although there are ways to make that work. It is just no fun when your superstud pickup turns out to be a power bottom, especially if you’re not flex, or if you’re not in the mood to top.

    Anyone expecting an hours-long, multi-position, multiple orgasm fuck may be in for a surprise. That stuff needs work.

    In real life, sex usually comprises a little kissing, a little foreplay, some lubing and gloving then there’s the pumping and thrusting and it’s all over – maybe thirty minutes if you’re lucky, but often a lot less, and you’re stuck trying to get home in the middle of the night, or trying to hint to the other guy that he’s not welcome to sleep over. You might get multiple positions, but having to be the director of the action can be tiring, and what if the other guy has different plans?

    Porn stars also have the luxury of many takes and are able to stop the camera in between. Keeping an erection isn’t always easy. I have difficulty staying hard when I get fucked, because I’m not that much of a bottom, which is one of the reasons I prefer to top.

    Sometimes you don’t even get to the pumping and the thrusting, like when the other fella isn’t into anal sex. Then, ironically, things might take longer – mutual oral isn’t always quick, and some people can turn body/muscle worship into a long slow buildup. Personally, I find that rimming can also be something that lasts a while – getting rimmed, and delivering too.

    Maybe that’s why kink is popular – because at least one person is thinking about different ways to stimulate the other, and it’s not only about a quick pump and dump.

    And then there’s the sounds.

    You can tell when someone is naturally a screamer, and when he is making those noises and faces because he thinks that it’s the porn thing to do. For the record, I’m a grunter, whether I’m on top or not. Plus there are occasions (like when you’re in a dark alley and you’ve got your hands down his pants, or up under his shirt) when the less noise the better: staying silent and breathing heavily is enough.

    Don’t even get me started on hygiene and all – sometimes anal is messy, smelly business, and it’s no one’s fault. Heck, body odour is so personal and individual that for some guys I try to hold my breath and for others I would drink their sweat.

    There are things you can do to make sex last longer – pausing to change activities, resting before going again, refraining from jacking off before you go pick up, switching back to oral after fucking a bit and so on.

    I’m saying you need to be careful, stay safe, and be realistic. No need to freak out or hurt someone’s feelings if things don’t go as you expect – especially if you have a porn movie in mind.

    I wanna be a porn star.

    Note-to-self.

    THIS

  • Louis CK and the Ending of “Magic Mike” | Badwolf/Blog

    Louis CK and the Ending of “Magic Mike” | Badwolf/Blog

    I almost never agree with anyone 100% of the time, and while I have my quibbles with one tiny phrase in this piece, I think its fundamental point is spot-fucking-on.

    Having met and masturbated with hundreds of men in socially sexual situations (JO clubs) I am completely on board with the understanding that sexual experiences between men do not necessarily equal gay/bi sexual orientation. I believe in my core that many—not all, certainly, but many—of the men with whom I have shared penis pleasure who also identify as straight or “mostly” straight are telling the truth. When I say I have enjoyed satisfying sex with numerous straight men, I am telling you the truth.

    To be fair, I didn’t put my penis inside any of them, but if you’re familiar with me at all you should know that penetration’s not a reasonable litmus test for “sex” in my experience. 

    This is yet another great post from my favorite sex blogger, Tyler. Read it now and then go read more of his blog. Tyler is super-smart, super-sexy and has both his head and heart in the right places. Also, you’ll get boners.

    For the insatiably curious, my tiny, personal quibble is his comment about the “… desensitized circumcised penis desperately trying to reach climax.” That took me aback as I’m not accustomed to this sort of thing from this particular blogger. I myself have plenty of personal preferences for a numerous sexual details, but I would never put down the ones I don’t prefer. That tidbit was rude and “foreskinist,” if I may coin a term. There’s room for all of us, Tyler, with and without foreskin.

  • masturbatorsanctum:

    Masturbating with a friend

    Just for the record, nobody has to have a six pack and a porn star penis to enjoy this. YOU can do this yourself and you should! Mutual masturbation belongs to all men who enjoy solo masturbation.

  • Me, my penis, and a little marginal privacy at the office. Also sperm.

  • Masturbation – The original sex act as a burgeoning kink community

    jackerbudchgo:

    popperpignet:

    by @popperpignet

    Did you know that whatever you can think of, someone is into it sexually? (Isn’t that like Rule 34 of the internet or something?) Once people find other people who are in to their same thing, whole communities are formed (bears, leather daddies, pups, etc). Men who masturbate together are called “bators”.

    Bators have their own sexual subculture with rituals, lingo, preferences, etc that often aren’t based on classically hetero-normative ideas of dom/sub or top/bottom. The lingo is one part frat, one part Masonic lodge, and one part temple whore, which might give a hint to what bator men value – intimacy, brotherhood and a celebration of sexuality related mostly to the penis and masturbation.

    Like other sexual subcultures, the more people that become interested add something to the mix and the culture evolves.  Some bators identify as solosexual, and are only into masturbating themselves.  Others are into mutual masturbation with one or more partners.  Some bators enjoy giving or getting oral stimulation, and still others enjoy anal stimulation while masturbating.  There are bators who enjoy edging (stimulating themsleves as long as they can) and there are bators into cum denial (edging with the goal being NOT to ejaculate or orgasm to completion). 

    Bate culture also has other terms for various activities that can happen when one or more men masturbate.  Some bators enjoy gooning, a trance or meditative state- tongue hanging out, wild-eyed grunting and groaning incoherently. Sometimes this overlaps with something called monkeybating, which is gooning (faces and sounds) to the point of tapping into some really primal part of yourself where you lose all sexual shame you’ve been taught and just enjoy the pleasure derived from your penis. (Note to gooners and monkeybators – this is just an intro piece, I’ll post more on gooning later!)

    Various jerk off parties have sprung up around the country, from the perennial New York Jacks to smaller informal house parties or even smaller groups.The rules of engagement usually involve an agreement of no penetration and no drug use, though individual bators or specific parties may arrange group events where oral is allowed, or poppers/weed use, for example. But most Jacks parties will draw crowds of men into various levels of comfort and exploration with bate culture, from the very new to the seasoned veterans (sometimes into “coaching”).

    Poppers, (originally amyl nitrite) were originally used as a medication to relieve chest pain.  Poppers dilate the blood vessels, giving you a rush of stimulation to wherever you happen to be focused.  Some people enjoy poppers to relax for anal activity while some bators use them to focus the pleasure to the penis, called popperbating. While relatively harmless, poppers can cause a drop in blood pressure, and should not be used with viagra or any other medications that might also affect blood pressure, or by people who already have blood pressure problems.  

    Like poppers, some bators enjoy smoking weed or cigarettes while bating, either as a sexually charged act in and of itself and/or because of the pleasure derived from the substance. This can also be said of poppers, alcohol and other substances, though again, many Jacks parties do not welcome the use of substances that might detract from the camaraderie and focus of the event.

    Many find that bator culture transcends hetero/homo/bi sorts of labels, similar to fetish or kink communities that aren’t really about the sex of your partner. There are men who enjoy masturbating together who identify as gay, queer, bisexual, pansexual, awesomesexual, asexual, heteroflexible, heterosexual, questioning, curious, confused and probably hundreds of other terms. What bators generally can agree on, however, is that masturbation can be celebrated as enriching a sexual activity as any other, and the best part is that you have all of the basic equipment.

    While many bators adopt a sort of dude/bro language, don’t let that language fool you – bating isn’t about normalizing any one particular sexual identity or male chauvinism or even about bro culture. If anything, it’s an acknowledgment and a reclamation of brotherhood and fraternity in the truest sense of the words.  Some folks (women who masturbate together?) might celebrate the sex goddess within and find empowerment in that, which is rad- and bator men have an overarching brotherhood, with smaller, deeper brotherhoods and groups within bate culture, which is also pretty radical.  

    So for the curious among you, here’s your first bator expression – Hail Penis – because if anything needs to be worshipped, it’s your own cock. You’ll find this expression useful when you’re so transfixed on your penis that words begin to fail you and you just start to babble about penis. http://popperpig.net

    I’m proud to masturbate. #realmenmasturbate #bateproud #bateevangelist

  • Pissing can be lonely work. It’s always good to have a little support.

  • Little Help?

    I have an ongoing challenge when writing about real-world sex play. It’s the word, “promiscuous.” Sometimes I get stuck on this loaded and inadequate term. I need some new ideas because I’m kinda tired of wrestling with it inside my head…

    Like many of you, I’ve embraced the word “slut” in its many forms and claimed it for myself and my slutty fellow humans, but it has to be constantly rehabilitated from the language of shame and condemnation. “Promiscuous” has the same issues.

    I would love some alternatives to “promiscuous” and “slutty” that positively but clearly describe the behavior of enjoying sex and participating in it freely, joyously and regularly with numerous fellow humans. It ultimately needs to be simple and short—one word, ideally—but it will probably need to include some short phrases. Suggestions, please.

    You can post suggestions in comments, Disqus or direct messages. Thanks a massive load, my friends!

  • jagalskakuk:

    4/4Nut

    Thank you for cumming—and just letting it fly. The best ejaculation let’s the body take over and doesn’t care how it looks or where the jizz goes.

    (Source: https://jagalskakuk.tumblr.com/)

  • Fucking

    There’s a guy I fuck these days. He’s mostly my type: Hairy, horny, bearded and playful. He’s also one of these guys very into anal sex and specifically being a bottom. For whatever reason, he is into me and into me topping him. It’s a decent FB relationship because there’s mutual attraction. BUT…

    I’m just not all that into fucking. I get tired of it after a while. Pounding deep into another man is fun for me, but it doesn’t really get me off. I almost never orgasm this way. What I enjoy is my partner’s pleasure and that a bottom can get off just from me fucking him. The thing is, I’m being #GGG here, not really going for what I myself enjoy the most from sex. 

    Let’s call him “John” because that’s not his name and it’s as generic as it gets. John hits me up all the time. I like him. If I didn’t like him and his attention, I’d do the fade away or just give him a gentle brush-off. My dick does pop out of my pants fully hard whenever we get together, and he does turn me on. It’s a decent opportunity for sweaty mansex on the regular and I do enjoy it. I just don’t cum with him. I fuck him until he comes, then I just relax with him for a while, chat a bit and then we part ways on good terms. 

    And then I masturbate or get a blow job and release a sperm load made massive from lots of prolonged fucking. 

    Then there’s “Mike,” another pseudonymous friend, for whom I have long held an intense attraction. When I got the opportunity to romp with him, I was once again confronted with a great guy who needed a hard fuck to feel satisfied. I adore this man. We’re Facebook friends and he remains one of my favorite individuals but after finding out that his needs are the needs of the voracious bottom, I’m just not into getting naked with him again. He still turns me on like crazy but when I imagine the follow-through, I lose the drive to make anything happen IRL. If he asked me to fuck him again, I probably would but unless we mixed it up, I know that an orgasm wouldn’t be in the cards and I really like orgasms.

    There have been a very few situations when I actively wanted to fuck a partner and an equally small number of times when I wanted to be fucked. It is, for me, a very rare, very intimate, very particular desire and I’m all for exploring that when it happens. But I genuinely do not experience these specific acts as “mandatory” for the purpose of having great, deeply satisfying sex with another man and I feel sorry for guys whose satisfaction depends on that one act as if nothing else was sex.

    I don’t like to specifically label myself a “masturbator” (at least, not when I’m doing anything other than masturbating) because while that is absolutely one of the things I am, it’s not my defining characteristic. Neither is being a top or a cocksucker. Those identities exist in the fantasies and beliefs of my sex partners. They see me as a top, or a bottom, or a cocksucker, or a bator or whatever… I see myself as a sexually engaged gay man. My goal in this realm is to be a good man for and with other men. That includes being a good lover, whether I’m penetrating another man’s holes or masturbating with strangers at a public urinal. I just want moments to be as good as they can be and for us to get what we need from these multitudes of acts connecting us with each other.

    To masturbate with another man, to share our primary sexual activities with each other, has long felt to me like my easiest path to having sex with just about anybody. Displaying and demonstrating my self-love with another and being given permission to experiment with their most personal pleasure in the moment is my favorite sex, sex in which I almost always orgasm freely and with the most intensity. That’s me.

    And I’m still going to do other things because life is short, different people need different things and I never, ever want to find myself in a rut.