Posts about sex as if I knew what I was talking about
DADDIES – Full-length film | Antonio Da Silva Films
Like so much of da Silva’s work, DADDIES is far more art than porn, more deeply evocative than manipulative. I found it exciting, riveting and touching. It left me horny and with a concurrent sense of affection for the men I see around me every day as well as for the man I am.
I encourage you to watch and to consider donating to his work. This is a man making erotic art on his own terms and it is for us. Love him back.
That’s a really good idea, and I’ve been writing it for a while. It’s part of my book on the history and culture of jack-off clubs. The question for me is, do I want to give that advice now or wait to publish it in print?
Let me think about it.
Love Yourself Beautiful scene from Luc Besson’s movie Angel A VIDEO
This is what drives me to write, to share myself, to invite men to experience pleasure with me… with each other and with themselves. I want all of us to really get this. I want you to get it.
I’ll get back to the beauty and power of sex tomorrow. Tonight… this.
(I assume the question is in response to this post.)
Thank you! I deliberately keep my blog focused on the written word rather than images, but I will certainly be posting more clips in the future.
How I Learned There’s More Than One Way To Have Gay Sex
(Click on the title of this article to read the whole thing on Buzzfeed.)
I am very pleased to have been interviewed for this article. However we get there, losing our stupid prejudice against anything other than full-on buttsex only makes our sex lives richer, deeper and more real. Sex is so much more than one thing. I encourage followers to read this article to the end.
My brief contributions are about two-thirds of the way through, but they’re a small part of the overall point. Your comments are welcome right here in Disqus.
The Number One Question I receive by far is this: “Is there a JO club near me?”
There are three responses I almost always give:
There are men all over the country who are actively looking for bate buddies. There are not a lot of JO clubs, but you can probably find somebody if you keep looking. Just be as safe as you can be.
A lot of people have asked this question since Dan popularized the phrase. Even though he has walked it back and now reminds everyone to not call it that, he still gives the same advice and I agree: You have to deny your dick the familiar stimulus until your brain forges new neural pathways.
That means you may have to go without orgasms for a while, but stick with it. Do anything but what you’re addicted to and your need to cum will eventually find a way. It is very, very hard to break some habits. Just keep trying until you make it.
Here are some relevant resources for you. Both should be helpful:
Sept 22 2015 Savage Lovecast: Episode 465
August 28, 2015 Mike Pearl article on VICE